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April 2011


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Fool for Love When You Don't See Me

Someone Like You I'm Your Man

He's The One It Had To Be You

The Mammoth Book of New Gay Erotica Best Gay Erotica 2007

Best Gay Love Stories: New York City Best Gay Love Stories 2005

Three Fortunes In One Cookie The Deal


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Rex's attorney contacted me a while ago and asked if I'd like a session with Jim Burwell to see if we could figure out how to correct some of EZ's social issues and ready her for adoption. I said something like, Hell yeah! So the appointment was made and today was the day. Of course it rained. I swear that every time Rex's attorney come over it rains. Luckily, like a good omen, the skies cleared just before Jim Burwell parked his Petiquette van in front of our house. Then Laura arrived and it rained again. Just kidding. It didn't.

Jim sat with us for a while, listening to EZ's story, and then talked with us about dogs who enter into new environments and how difficult it can be for them, especially when there are other dogs with already established positions in the pack. I knew a lot of this already, but it was still interesting and I did learn a few new things, mostly about ways the different sexes can interact and behavioral signals. After a long talk we decided to take EZ outside, since it wasn't raining anymore, and have her meet Rex. Jim handled EZ on a long lead--another new thing for me, because I was unaware about lead tension and how a tense lead can trigger anxiety in a dog--and I handled Rex. We started by letting then sniff each other. I held Rex's head so he wouldn't react suddenly and forced him to let EZ check him out, and then we did the same for EZ. Then we walked the dogs toward each other, always keeping the leashes slack, just to see how they'd react to each other. Rex, of course, didn't give a rat's ass about EZ. All he wanted to do was jump on Jim and say hi. No fool Rex. He knew Jim had treats. We kept walking the dogs past each other, then alongside each other for a while. Everything went extremely well, so we took the dog and Rexford show indoors.

Inside, there's less stimulus, smaller spaces, so it was a different scenario. Repeating the process of having them walk past each other, and sometimes having them sit or lay down for treats in close proximities, we learned that EZ's not wild about Rex's sudden movements. Also, she seemed a bit possessive of Jim and his bag o' treats. After figuring this out, we sat down to talk a lot more. I knew it was us as humans who actually need training and I always thought I was a bit of a hardass when it came to the dogs, but it seems there's a lot more I can do, and things I should stop doing, to further assert myself as the leader of the pack and create social order and harmony among the dogs. Most of them revolve around food. Such as, preparing my food and the dog's food at the same time; me eating first, them watching me eat while their food sits in bowls on the counter, then giving Rex his food when I'm done (since he lives here), and then giving EZ her food when Rex is done eating.

There was a lot to take in in such a short time, but we felt a lot better about EZ afterward and her chances of being successful in a new home, especially if I continue to work with her based on what Jim taught us. After Jim left, Rex's attorney and I talked about EZ a bit more and decided she's finally well enough to be spayed, so she made an appointment for that to happen next week. (Which might even mellow her out further.)