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Best Gay Love Stories: New York City Best Gay Love Stories 2005

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Oct. 29th, 2008

listen to what the man said (

Oct. 5th, 2008

really saying something (

While I watched the vice presidential debate I was reminded of The Princess Bride, because whenever I heard the word "maverick" I thought, "You keep saying that word. I don't think it means what you think it means."

Oct. 2nd, 2008

vote, baby, vote (

declare yourself

Jun. 13th, 2006

I love to hate you

I'm home, and still thinking about hate crimes against GLBT individuals. I did some digging through the FBI's pdf files and came up with this info. My head is swimming. By the way, bear in mind that not all hate crimes are reported.

  • In 2004, 2,046 agencies reported 7,649 incidents involving 9,035 offenses. There were 7,642 single-bias incidents and 7 multiple-bias incidents. Among the single-bias incidents, bias against sexual orientation accounted for 15.7 percent. Bias against a particular sexual orientation accounted for 1,406 offenses within single-bias hate crime incidents. 60.8 percent of these offenses resulted from an anti-male homosexual bias, 21.1 percent from an anti-homosexual bias, 14.3 percent from an anti-female homosexual bias, 2.5 percent from an anti-heterosexual bias, and 1.3 percent from an anti-bisexual bias. Intimidation accounted for 31.3 percent of hate crimes reported. Of the five bias-motivated murders reported, one murder stemmed from a bias against homosexual individuals. Of the 112 bias-motivated robberies reported, 33.0 percent were because of bias against sexual-orientation. Of the 44 arsons that law enforcement agencies reported as bias-motivated crimes, sexual-orientation bias accounted for 11.4 percent. Thirty-four percent of the 1,197 single-bias incidents that were motivated by a sexual-orientation bias occurred at residences or homes. Nearly one-fourth (24.9 percent) of the incidents happened on highways, roads, alleys, or streets; and 12.5 percent occurred at schools or colleges.

  • In 2003, a total of 9,100 individuals, businesses, institutions, or society as a whole were victims of hate crimes. Additionally, 16.3 percent of total single-bias hate crime victims were attacked because of the offender’s prejudice against sexual-orientation...Within the 1,430 single-bias hate crime offenses perpetrated due to a sexual-orientation bias, law enforcement identified 61.6 percent as having an anti-male homosexual bias. In addition, 21.3 percent were due to an anti-homosexual bias, 15.4 percent were committed because of an anti-female homosexual bias, 1.0 percent were driven by an anti-heterosexual bias, and 0.6 percent involved an anti-bisexual bias. 14 reported murders were biased motivated; 6 murders were motivated by the victim's sexual-orientation. 5 forcible rapes were bias motivated; 3 forcible rapes were motivated by the victim's sexual orientation. 36 out of 107 robberies were motivated by a sexual-orientation bias.

  • In 2002, a total of 9,222 individuals,businesses, institutions,or society as a whole were victims of hate crimes. Additionally,16.4 percent of total single-bias hate crime victims were attacked because of the offender’s prejudice against the victim’s sexual-orientation;...The 2002 data included reports of 1,464 offenses caused by a sexual-orientation bias. Of these, male homosexuals were the targets of 65.4 percent of the attacks. Law enforcement attributed the remaining offenses to anti-homosexual bias, 17.7 percent; anti-female homosexual bias, 14.1 percent; anti-heterosexual bias, 1.8 percent; and anti-bisexual bias, 1.0 percent. There were 11 homicides motivated by hate bias, 4 of which were motivated by sexual-orientation bias. 3 forcible rapes were motivated by a sexual orientation bias. Out of 130 single-bias incident robberies, 43 stemmed from sexual-orientation bias.

  • In 2001, of the 11,451 offenses reported, 67.8 percent were crimes against Sexual-orientation bias (1,592 offenses) made up 13.9 percent of all offenses within the single-bias incidents. Within this bias category, anti-male homosexual bias motivated 69.3 percent of offenses, anti-female homosexual bias accounted for 15.4 percent, and bias against homosexuals as a group, 13.0 percent. Anti-heterosexual and anti-bisexual bias accounted for the remainder. There were 10 hate-motivated murders in 2001. Of these, 1 was attributed to sexual-orientation bias.

  • In 2000, 8,063 bias-motivated criminal incidents were reported to the FBI. 16.1 percent of reported incidents were by sexual-orientation bias. 19 hate-motivated murders were reported to the national Uniform Crime Reporting Program by participating law enforcement agencies. Of this total, 2 hate-motivated murders were motivated by sexual-orientation bias. Victims of sexual-orientation bias accounted for 15.7 percent of all single-bias hate crime victims in 2000. Anti-male homosexual bias composed 68.0 percent of those who were victims of sexual-orientation bias. 19 hate-motivated murders were reported to the national UCR Program by participating law enforcement agencies. Of this total, 2 of the murders were motivated by by sexual-orientation bias.

  • In 1999, 7,876 bias-motivated criminal incidents were reported to the FBI. Intimidation was the most frequently reported hate crime; it accounted for 35 percent of the total. Victims of sexual-orientation bias accounted for 16 percent of all hate crime victims in 1999. Anti-male homosexual bias accounted for 69 percent of those who were victims of sexual-orientation-bias crimes. Of the 17 murders reported among hate-motivated incidents, sexual-orientation bias motivated 3 of the incidents.

  • During 1998, a total of 7,755 bias-motivated criminal incidents were reported to the FBI. 1,260 by sexual-orientation bias. Thirteen persons were murdered in 1998 in hate-motivated incidents, 4 of which were motivated by sexual orientation.
  • May. 9th, 2006

    subliminal fascism

    "When fascism comes to America it will be wrapped in a flag and carrying a cross." It Can't Happen Here, Sinclair Lewis, 1935.

    Apr. 10th, 2006


    Mr. Becky just figured out my taxes. I owe money. Makes me fucking sick.

    Apr. 9th, 2006


    It's always good to learn new things. I learned a new word today: Lumper.

    (see also, "talking out of your ass.")

    Feb. 4th, 2006

    openly offended

    Somebody who is also a gay male wrote to me recently and questioned my disdain for his use of term (moniker) "openly gay." This was my reply:

    I don't understand why you'd use the term "openly gay." It's such a put-down term. It implies that we should hide who we are, or that hiding who we are might be a preferred option. Or that there's something bad about being "openly gay." If Barney Frank were black, do you think "openly black" would be an acceptable term used in today's society? Or "openly Jewish?" How about "openly left-handed?" Or, maybe people with cancer should be "openly cancerous." People who strive for equality but who use the same terminology that's used by the masses to segregate and seperate confuse me. You and I deserve better than to be "openly gay." We deserve to be "openly human," "openly equal" and "openly good enough to be who we were born to be."

    Feb. 3rd, 2006

    silence = death (don't call it a comeback)

    I was watching CNN last night, horrified about a report of an attack at a gay bar in New Bedford, MA by an eighteen year old with a hatchet and a gun. But what horrifies me the most is the realization that there's little difference between the attacker in this instance and the people in our government who want to deny and take away basic rights to LGBT persons in our country. Whether you beat us down with rhetoric and laws, or hatchets and guns, it's tantamount to abuse of a fellow human being. The more our government says that gays are bad and unequal the more we'll see of these unstable people thinking it's okay to attack us, to try to kill us. It seems like I see stories like this more and more every year, and more often than not these unstable people driven by the misconceptions and discrimination inspired by our "lawmakers" are not prosecuted because they committed a hate crime, and it's "determined" that the crime had nothing to do with the victim being gay or lesbian.

    So what do we do? Why are we—gay, lebian, bisexual and transgender Americans—paying taxes to a goverment that doesn't represent us? Why are we satisfied with the false assumption that we're "accepted" just because of television and film? Why aren't we taking a cue from Fred Phelps and other quasi-religious wingnuts that have hijacked ACT-UP; why are their voices heard and not ours? How much longer will it be before we're sitting in the backs of busses, denied the right to vote, or rounded up onto that island everybody's been talking about since the outbreak of AIDS? Why is it okay that people like Chad Allen or Barney Frank are still refered to as "openly gay?" And how is that moniker different from "known" or "alleged Communist?" Can somebody tell me what year this is? Didn't we move into a new century six years ago, or are we back in the 1950's or 1960's? Is gay the new black, or are still a bunch of pinkos?

    Jan. 17th, 2006

    climb every mountain

    Watching the Golden Globes award show last night reminded me that as a gay man I'm still not accepted by society, still a minority, and still have a long way to go before I can get through one day without being provoked and angry by some moron or another. Yes, that's you I'm referring to, Dennis Quaid.

    In spite of the fact that queer-themed films were honored last night, the entertainment industry (Golden Globes, and whoever produced the ceremony) felt it necessary to temper the show with a few gay jokes here and there, most notably delivered by the cast of Will & Grace, in a sort of nudge-nudge wink-wink manner to households all over the nation, as if to say, "We may be giving them awards, but don't worry, we're not taking this any more seriously than you are at home. And, by the way, we're all straight, so sit back, enjoy the show, and please buy some L'Oreal products."

    Each of the movies up for the Best Picture award was presented peridically through the night in an almost reverential and respectful way, that is until it was Brokeback Mountain's turn. I have no idea why Dennis Quaid was chosen to acknowledge that Brokeback Mountain was nominated for the Best Picture Golden Globe, and it seemed as though he had no idea either, given his "aw-shucks, I'm not gay" delivery, not to mention the off-color and irreverernt chick-flick/dick-flick "joke." I say "joke" in quotations, because I still don't get it. If I don't get it, it's not a joke. Then again, his comments were directed to the straight viewers and not me, so I guess it doesn't matter whether or not I understood what he was trying to say.

    What does matter is that I get it now. It doesn't matter whether or not the entertainment industry represnts me or anything close to my life. It's up to me to make that happen, to make my voice heard, and to let people know that I'm just as good as they are. No, the irony that this award show was broadcast on Martin Luther King Day was not lost on me.

    However, Felicity Huffman moved me when she accepted her award for her portrayal of a man about to undergo a sex-change operation in Trans-America, and said, "I know as actors our job is usually to shed our skins, but I think as people our job is to become who we really are, and so I would like to salute the men and women who brave ostracism, alienation and a life lived on the margins to become who they really are."

    I think it was incredibly brave of her to say that.

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